How To Get Your Ex Back Guaranteed

Question:

My ex just recently broke up with me saying it hasn’t been the same and she just wants to be good friends and still wants me in her life. I still have strong feelings for her and I want her back. Is this possible and what do I do?

Answer:

Having your girlfriend breakup with you and then tell you that she just wants to be friends is a tough situation to be in because your emotions and feelings for each other are still raw and very real. The last thing that you want as an ex boyfriend is to constantly hang around someone that you used to date but are no longer with and watch them go out with other guys while you’re left standing on the side lines.

So is there a magic formula for getting back together with an ex girlfriend? Well not really. Everything you do depends on the dynamics of the relationship you had and since each person’s relationship is different, the techniques that you use to get back with someone will be different too. But don’t let that discourage you. Below I’ll give you 4 general guidelines that you can start with to get your foot in the door and get you on your way to becoming a couple again. If she dated you once, she’ll date you again.

1. Be Honest With Each Other

It’s true that relationships can end for a number of reasons, but perhaps the largest underlying reason why most relationships fail is due to lack of trust. Somewhere along the line, someone has done something to break the trust of the other person and the issue either gets swept under the rug or blown out of proportion without a proper explanation.

What I want you to do now is to examine your past relationship with your ex girlfriend and see if there’s anything that you might have done to violate her trust. Even telling a white lie or making her suspicious of you is enough to break a relationship, so if there’s something questionable that you did, even if it was innocent and unintended, it’s a good idea to talk about that with your ex.

2. Be Her Personal Cheerleader

One of the biggest mistakes that guys make when it comes to trying to get back with their ex girlfriend is that they try and control them. This control manifests its self in various forms and one of the most prevalent is in the form of emotional control. Many times, ex boyfriends will try and guilt their ex into not doing something by throwing a pity party for themselves and acting depressed that they are no longer together.

While it may be true, you are no longer a couple, there are still things you can do to stay connected which if done correctly will go a long ways to helping you get back together when the time comes.

What I’m talking about here is becoming her personal cheerleader. Be that person that she can freely come to and talk about her problems with. When you allow her to freely come into your life, you start to rebuild that emotional connection that brought you together in the first place.

So as you can see, trying to control and smother her won’t do you any good when it comes to trying to get back with her, especially when she only wants to be friends. Instead, focus on cheering her on and re-establishing the emotional connection you once had.

3. Be Reliable

Another great way to get your ex girlfriend back, even if your just friends, is to be reliable. One of the things that women love most in a man is reliability. They love a man who follows through on what he says he’s going to do because they know they can count on him to get the job done. So if you really want to get back in her good books, even while you’re just friends, then be reliable and dependable.

4. Listen To Her

Communication in any relationship is a two way street, but if you want to maximize your efforts during the breakup, be a good listener. If you’ve done things correctly and re-established your emotional connection, despite the breakup, then she’s more likely to come to you with her problems which gives you the chance to understand her wants and needs.

Now I feel I should caution you here, most guys will make the mistake of jumping all over the situation and try and tell her why they should still be together. Don’t do this! It’s still too early in the breakup to talk about getting back together. What you want to accomplish in this stage is to gain her trust back so that she sees you as someone she wants to be with.

The Last Word

As you can see I’ve laid out some pretty generic tips for you that you can use immediately after the breakup and what’s great is that they work for almost any situation; even when she just wants to be friends.

If you follow the tips I’ve outlined above and you work on re-establishing the emotional connection you once had as a couple, you’ll increase the likelihood that you will be able to get your ex girlfriend back.

Question:

I want to get back with my ex and I’ve heard that dating them casually is a great way to do this. Can you give me a few ideas on what kinds of things I can do for dates that will allow me to emotionally reconnect with my ex without having them feel pressured?

Answer:

The following “10 romantic fun ways to get my ex back” will help you get back together by building a strong foundation of friendship and understanding in your relationship. But I should caution you that there’s no guarantee any of these will work 100% of the time. You know your ex better than anyone else, and so you know what things might work best for them.

1. Send a bouquet. Regardless of whether you send flowers or cookies to your ex, a bouquet is a great way to show your ex that you’re thinking about them, and if done correctly, can make a strong long lasting impression with your ex.

Lastly, one of the best things about sending a bouquet is that it’s something that doesn’t cost a lot of money or time on your part but will always be well received which will put you in the good books.

2. Send your ex a novelty cards that opens up and plays a song or line from one of their favorite tv shows or movies. Whether it’s for a birthday or a holiday, choose a funny, sweet or romantic card to make the day special.

What this demonstrates to your ex is that you’ve paid attention to their interests and to what they like. Again, it won’t cost you much, but it will show your ex that you still care about them and are thinking of them.

3. Ask your ex out on a ‘no pressure’ date. You just want to spend time together and enjoy each other’s company as friends without the pressure of ‘getting back together’. Choose a very low-pressure and fun place like the zoo, the science center or go-karting, but make sure that it’s a place where you can interact and communicate with each other.

Dates with your ex don’t need to be filled with pressure, but they do need to be fun and memorable. You want your ex to see you as someone who is fun loving and young at heart which is why you need to choose fun, interactive activities for your ‘no pressure’ date.

4. Write a love letter. Writing a letter will let you express yourself in ways you might not be comfortable doing face to face. Tell your ex how about the good times you had together and how much it meant to you. But remember that everything you write down can be read by other people besides your ex.

Another thing you should do with your letter is scent it with your ex’s favorite scent. This is a great way to add a personal touch to the letter you send because not only do they have a letter that you wrote them, but it’s got their favorite scent too.

And what’s better is that in this day and age when everything revolves around technology, a personal scented letter is something they’ll never see coming.

5. Write a poem. Writing poetry to your ex is sort of like writing a love letter. It can be much more romantic if you say the right things. Also, don’t underestimate the power of using humor in your poems. Don’t worry if you’re not as eloquent as Shakespeare. As long as your poetry comes from the heat your ex should appreciate it.

If you remember the first Sex and the City movie, Big uses poetry written by others to connect emotionally connect with Carrie after he bolts from their wedding and he does this because he’s not great with words face to face..

Do you remember the impact it had on her and what happened next? Poetry is powerful when used properly.

6. Ask your ex to join you on a spa date. This is a great idea if your ex happens to be a girl. Make the appointment for both of you to get a hair cut and manicure as well as a hot stone massage or facial. Doing it together is a fun way to have time to talk and just relax.

Just because you’re a guy doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the spa and you’ll both look great and feel refreshed when you’re done.

7. Ask your ex out on a theme date. Eat spaghetti and watch The Lady and the Tramp. Eat hamburgers, fries and shakes and watch Grease. The point is to plan something fun and lighthearted.

Want to throw more pizzazz into your theme date? Try dressing up. Not only will it add to the mood of the evening but it will allow you to show off your fun side too.

8. Show your ex your soft side with animals by taking them to an animal shelter and take the dogs out for a walk and play with the cats.

Most people love animals and there’s no better way for your ex to see your tender side than to play with animals that are deemed ‘less fortunate’.

9. Go to an amusement park together. Ride the scariest rides and roller coasters you can find and have your picture taken in the wooden cut-outs that make you look goofy and silly. Swap picking rides for each other. You pick the rides that they have to go on and they in turn pick the rides that you have to go on. Have fun without pressure on your ex about getting back together.

10. Re-create your first date. This date should be saved for last when you’re sure things between you and your ex are going well.

Re-creating your first date is the ultimate way to show your ex how serious you are about getting back together with them and when you get it right, they’ll appreciate the effort you put in to recreating the first date you shared together.

If you’re looking to get back together again after some time apart, one of these “10 romantic fun ways to get my ex back” tips are sure to give you both a really good time together and they don’t even need to cost a lot. The more effort you put into the date, the less effort you’ll need to put in when it comes time to get back with your ex.

Question:

I was in a relationship for a while but we broke things off recently. I really want to get back together with my ex but I’m not sure what I should do or where to start. Can you please help me?

Answer:

You’re not alone. If you’ve gone through a difficult break up or divorce it’s natural to wonder if you made the right decision. In the long run, you need to do what’s best for you and sometimes that means patching things up and getting back together.

Unfortunately there aren’t any cookie cutter solutions for fixing relationship problems because each one is unique. However, there are some simple guidelines that have proven to work well for many people.

I’ve listed 4 things to consider before you go out and get your ex back:

1.  Own Your End Of The Relationship.

If you really want to get your ex back, it’s important for you to look at your relationship objectively and scrutinize your role in it. It’s very easy to pin point your partner’s faults and flaws but it’s much harder to do it to ourselves.

What I recommend is that you get a sheet of paper and make a list of your personal flaws and see if they negatively impacted your relationship. The point of this exercise here is to help put you on the path to changing yourself as opposed to trying to change your partner.

 In the end what you’ll find that you’re a much stronger, confident and well rounded individual for being able to first acknowledge your flaws and then work towards changing them.

2. Give Your Ex The Appropriate Time And Space They Need

It’s important that you give your ex the time and space apart they need. Not only does it show them that you’re considerate of their feelings but it gives both of you the time apart you need to let the dust settle and make more level headed decisions.

The other thing to note here about time apart is that it gives you and your ex a chance to miss each other. So don’t text or call your ex frequently after the break up. This will only make you appear needy and desperate. Instead use the time apart to work on improving yourself as a person.

3. Improve Yourself

In case you haven’t figured it out yet, the key to getting back with your ex is to improve yourself. You can’t force someone to like you, but you can work on yourself to appear more attractive and marketable.

This can include things like taking a class, upgrading your schooling or learning a new skill. The point here is to invest in yourself while you and your ex are apart.

By making positive changes in your life and moving the ball forward you enhance who you are as a person and as a result you make investing time in a relationship with you worth it. And isn’t that what you’re really after?

4. Be Careful With Children 

If you’ve got kids involved in your relationship try your best to leave them out during the reconciliation process. The last thing you want to do when trying to get your ex back is to get their hopes up that you’re getting back together when you’re really not, also don’t put them in the middle and use them against the other person.

 If you can’t make it work between you two then don’t drag the kids into it. There’s no point in them going through the same breakup twice.

Now that you understand what some of the techniques are to get your ex back and how to use them, go out and put them into action. Today is the day to finally make a positive change in your life and while nothing is guaranteed, the worst thing you can do is nothing.

Learn more ingenious techniques to get your ex back here.

Question:

I broke up with my ex but now I regret it. What can I do or say to get their attention and get them back?

Answer:

That’s a great question and you’re not the first person to go through this and you won’t be the last either.

It doesn’t matter how the relationship ended, the fact still remains that you’re left with a broken heart and a void in your life that needs to be filled.

You can try and justify it all you want; who was right or who was wrong, but at the end of they day, you’ve accepted the fact that you want your ex back. So where do you go from here?

Below I’ve listed 5 heartfelt tips you can use to help get your ex back in your life.

Apologize

The very first thing you should do is take responsibility for your part of the break up and apologize. However, you need to do more than simply say “I’m sorry”. A proper apology must come from the heart. You must show your ex that you’ve searched within yourself and identified your flaws and assume responsibilty for them. I recommend you take a notepad and make a list of personal things that can be worked on and take action. That way once you talk with you’re ex, they will be able to see how much you’ve progressed and improved as a person.

Clear The Air

Many times in relationships, things get said or not said that are misinterpreted which frequently creates a rift between couples. Take time to clear the air with your ex and speak with them about anything you think they might have taken the wrong way. Don’t do it via text message, preferably, do up a hand written letter that enables you to clarify your side of the story. You’d be astonished at how well this works and what’s better, your ex won’t be planning on a letter from you so they’ll be stunned once they get it.

Forgive Them

An additional step on the way to getting your ex back is to forgive them. Yes, it appears hard, but it works like a charm in relationships. After all, you’re only human and you’re both guaranteed to make a few mistakes. Place yourself in your ex’s shoes for a minute here. I’m certain you weren’t perfect and would want to be forgiven for a few of the slipups you made during the relationship. So don’t you think you need to afford your ex the same courtesy?

Keep Going!

What do you do in the event that your ex isn’t really ready to hear from you yet? Don’t give up. Things don’t happen over night and your ex needs time and space to miss you, so don’t smother them at this time. Instead make time to work on yourself and improve as a person, this way when the time finally comes to get together with your ex again, you’ll be a better and more desirable person.

Communicate Effectively

Effective communication goes a long way to getting someone back. When it’s time to talk about your past relationship, take time to explain what went wrong according to you. Do not lay blame or anything like that, rather evaluate the relationship together and see if you can find common points to agree on. When you have a lay of the land for your relationship do what you can to make things better and you’ll find out that your ex will behave in kind.

Now that you’ve read and understand the five heartfelt ways to get your ex back, its time for you to take action and do it. Start with the apology and move on from there.

If you’re still having trouble thinking of ways to contact your ex, try using this highly effective pre-written second chance letter here.

Good Luck!

Question:

I’m struggling with my emotions right now. My ex and I had a really messy breakup but I still really miss them. Is this normal and why do I want them back so badly if we broke up?

Answer:

What you’re experiencing is totally normal. It’s natural to question a breakup, no matter how it happened or who broke it off. But as time passes and you have a chance to reflect on things, you’ll get to a place where part of you wants your ex back. At this point, you should ask yourself ” Why do I want to get back with my ex so bad?”

This is a tricky question and it can only be answered by you. Rest assured you’re not losing your mind because countless other people have asked themselves the exact same thing. It’s likely that your friends and family are indicating that you should ditch your ex and get over it, but that all is dependent upon the type of relationship you had with your ex. If they cheated on your or mistreated you in any way, then I would go along with your friends, move on and start fresh. If however this was not the case and that little voice in your head keeps hinting to get back with your ex, then you should take that into consideration. But before you do, there’s a few things you need to do first.

Evaluate Your Feelings

This is the perfect time to be honest with yourself and your relationship. As was mentioned before, right now your emotions are going to be a little heightened, but that shouldn’t stop you from evaluating them. What I suggest you do is write down a list of what you’re feeling and then analyze why you’re feeling that way about the relationship. Were you the root cause of some of these feelings? Now’s the best time to find out, remember be honest with yourself here because you’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Evaluate Your Relationship

Now it’s time to evaluate your relationship with your ex. I imagine you both put considerable time and effort into making it work, so why did it fail?

The first place to start is to look at what attracted you to each other initially and then go from there. I bet you’ll find that as time progressed and your relationship became more complex that there were instances where you both took each other for granted. Don’t get me wrong here, it’s normal and happens to the best of us, but at the end of the day the only person we can change is ourselves. So if you changed, was it for better or for worse? Don’t be afraid to be honest with yourself here either, again you have absolutely nothing to lose.

Take Action

After you’ve evaluated your feelings towards your ex and your relationship with them there are only two road you can go down. If, at the end of your evaluation, you’ve decided that you truly don’t want to get back with your ex, then let it be. If, however, you’ve decided that you do want to get back with your ex, then you’ve got some work to do on your end.

You’ve got to make contact again with your ex, but depending on how things ended depends on how soon and what type of contact you should make. If the break up was messy, I recommend you wait anywhere between six to eight weeks before attempting to contact your ex. This gives them time to miss you and it gives you time to work on yourself after you’ve completed your self evaluation. The goal here is to show your ex that you’ve changed as a person and have them questioning the break up.

Make sure that when you contact them that it’s personal. Try to avoid using Facebook or other social media outlets as a way to first contact your ex after the break up; it’s tacky and impersonal. Instead, try a phone call or perhaps an email to re-establish contact with your ex. The advantage of a phone call is that your ex will be able to hear the change in your personality through your voice. But if you can’t contact them through a phone call, an email gives you the ability to craft a message towards your ex with unlimited space to explain yourself and your feelings.

As you can see, asking yourself “Why do I want to get my ex back?” is easier said than done. The key to being successful is to be honest with yourself about your motives and your relationship with your ex. Only then can you make the changes that need to be made and become the person your ex wants again.

Question:

People always tell you to start looking hot around your ex. Let’s say your ex runs into you after a while and you’re looking really hot. How would that make them feel?  Do you think it would make them think about getting back together?

Answer:

In short yes. There’s something to be said for looking your best and this is especially true when it comes to getting back with an ex, however it’s not the end all be all to the relationship.

There are many different things you can do to get back together with your ex, but they depend on your situation.

Did you break up recently or has it been a few months?

If you’ve been broken up for just a few weeks, there’s a chance that looking good won’t have the same impact as it would if you’ve been apart for a while.

This is because your good looks will still be fresh in your ex’s mind where as if you’ve spent some significant time apart, looking good will jolt their memoryand have them thinking about the good times you had together.

Who should make first contact?

 In theory you want your ex to contact you and looking good will go a long ways to making this happen. If you were friends on Facebook but got de-friended after the breakup, keep an eye out to see if they add you as a friend again after seeing you in person.

Don’t get your hopes up that your ex will call you right away, chances are they’ll text you instead. Keep the text short and sweet and don’t get into much detail.

Doing this will help you appear busy and mysterious and leave your ex wanting more. Furthermore on this, drop a note in the last line of your text to have your ex call you and chat. By doing this you shift the balance in the relationship and give your ex something to look forward to.

Radiate Confidence

Lastly you should radiate confidence whenever you deal with your ex. This is something that you’ll need to work on during your time apart, but nothing is more attractive than self confidence and it will shine through to your ex, even when you’re talking on the phone.

It’s no lie that looking good plays in important role if you want to win your ex back, but in order to maximize your looks you need to have the confidence that goes along with it.

We’ve been taught to think that the things we want in life take hard work and effort, and to an extent that’s true.

But if you take nothing else away from this page let it be this – Just because something is simple, doesn’t mean it’s not effective. Many people reading this will discount the ideas here because they are so simple, but in most cases they work beautifully.

Take Action Now And Win Back Your Ex Today!

Wow, one of the hardest things to deal with in life is losing someone you love to a break up. It can really take a long time to move on after a break up and you will most likely find yourself wanting to win back your ex during the process.

No one can, or should, tell you how long it will be until you feel ‘whole’ again. Everyone is different and everyone will take as long as they take to finally get over a lost love and feel like they are ready to move on.

Please do not let anyone badger you into ‘getting back out there’ sooner than you feel you are ready. No one else can make that determination.

However, if you don’t seem to be bouncing back after a few months (and I’m not talking about dating, I just mean finding some joy in your day to day life) than you may want to find a counselor or a therapist that can help you work through your grief.

That may be one of the most common misconceptions: losing someone you loved to a break up is just as traumatic as losing someone to death. It’s still grief and it will still take time to get over.

There are some things that you can do to make the process go a little smoother and maybe even a little more quickly.

The first thing on your list should be to try to get reacquainted with someone special… you. It’s all too common to stop doing some of the things you liked to do when you are in a relationship. Many times the other person won’t enjoy the same activities that you do so you just don’t do them.

When you feel really low and you miss your ex the most, that is the time to spend time doing the things you really loved to do. I’m not saying that you will suddenly feel better, but you may find that you will be able to get your mind off of your ex at least for a little while.

Another thing that you should do during this time is to try to figure out what you can work on to make yourself a better person.

Now, be careful, you don’t want to rehash your whole relationship and take all the blame on to yourself. That is not what I mean. I am talking about improving on the person you are. The changes you make may have nothing to do with what went wrong in your relationship.

What I mean is that since you are on your own for a little while, you might as well just try to make some good, positive changes. Why not? That way when you do meet someone else, you can bring a better version of you to the relationship. It will help you alleviate some of your baggage.

I am truly sorry for the pain and loneliness you are feeling, but remember, to get your ex back distract yourself with a positive activity.